I met Kwodwo in October 2020 when I was doing my attachment. We were in different offices but I moved to his office after we became friends. My boss was not happy with it but I didn’t mind him. The more time we spent together the closer we got. He would take me to lunch and pay the bills. When we close from work, we would go home together.

A month into our friendship, Kwodwo told me, “Dina, I like you. I want to marry you.” I liked him so I accepted his proposal. He stopped calling me by my name and started calling me his wife. It was nice. It made me feel special.

After my internship, I left for school. It was after the COVID break. He was scared that I would stop talking to him but I didn’t. We kept in touch. We talked on the phone almost every day and texted each other several times a day. He even knew my timetable so he calls when I don’t have a class and he is less busy.

When school vacated I went to his place, stayed there for five days and went home. This happened twice and during my second stay, his phone rang one evening around 10:30 PM, but he was asleep and didn’t answer the call. The person on the end was determined to talk to him so they kept calling.

I figured whatever it was must be important so I woke him up and gave him the phone. He just took it from me and hung up. The person called again and he hung up again. His behaviour gave me the impression that he was cheating on me so I cried myself to sleep that night.

I left his place the next day for my place without asking him any questions about what happened. However, it bothered me a great deal. I kept on thinking about it when I came home so I told my friend about it and she advised me on what to do. If it bothers you so much, “Have a conversation with him about it. That way you won’t draw wild conclusions that will disturb your emotions.”

I took her advice and spoke to my boyfriend about the phone call incident. Instead of this guy giving me an explanation he just said we should break up. I didn’t understand so I asked why and he told me that he doesn’t want to waste my time.

I asked what does he mean by that and he answered, “My father said I shouldn’t marry someone who is not from Ashanti or Brong Ahafo region. Considering the fact you are from the Western region, it won’t be possible.”

My dear readers, this thing happened a day before my birthday so imagine how I felt. I even told him his dad can’t decide for him whom he loves so we should forget him and continue the relationship but this guy refused. “I cannot disobey my dad,” he said. That’s how we ended our relationship. I had no choice but to move on.

Why am I here then? Well, this guy is back asking for a second chance. “What about what your father said?” I asked him, “Didn’t he warn you to stay away from my tribe?” He told me his dad had changed his mind.

I asked him when and how the change occurred. And he said, “I spoke to him about you via text message and he gave me the go-ahead to be with you.” I didn’t believe him so I asked to see proof of their chats.

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Could you believe that this guy sent me a screenshot of himself having a conversation with himself on another device? If I could, I would add it here for you to see if I am the one seeing things where there is nothing to see.

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I told him I would think about it but it’s been months now and I still haven’t given him any reply. He doesn’t know whether I’m still interested in him or not. To be honest, I am considering giving him another chance. My decision is based on the fact that he is a good guy. Everything was great in our relationship until that phone call issue happened. I know he won’t purposely do anything to hurt me again. That’s why I want to give him another chance.

Regardless, a voice in my head keeps telling me he is lying. Besides, I don’t usually second chances when it comes to relationships. What do I do? I am caught between a rock and a hard place. Should I accept him? Or I should move on with my life?

—Maame

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