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I appreciate all the people who took their time to comment on my story, most importantly the people who insulted me. I understand your frustration when you read my story. I too was frustrated to be in that relationship. No rational human being would find themselves in that kind of situation, but I did. Some of you said I have low self-esteem but I can assure you that I don’t. I am just an empath. I understand how it feels to not have money, that’s why I always felt pity for him and gave him money when he asked. Others also said I was the one who proposed to him. Trust me, I did no such thing. He pursued me for one year before I even agreed to date him.

Now that I have clarified the reason for my actions, let me satisfy the curiosity of the readers who asked for an update. Nine days after the last breakup, he called me. I had deleted his number so I did not know it was him until I heard his voice. He sounded fine. You wouldn’t know that he was the same person who picked a fight with me and broke up with me over my own money. “I just want to check up on you,” he said. “Thank you,” I answered, “I am fine.” Then I hung up on him.

After the call ended he sent me a confusing WhatsApp message. It read; “I can’t stand myself for how I have behaved toward you. Even my sister is upset with me. I hate how inconsistent I have been. And I know that it is because I don’t love you as much as I should. I wish I knew what my problem is but I don’t.” I asked him, “So what do you want from me right now? You broke up with me so just leave me alone.” “I really miss you. I think of you all the time. Everything I see reminds me of you. I want you back, Annie.” He replied.

I didn’t say anything to him. I knew he only wanted me back because he was broke. So I decided to play the long game. I acted as if I was going to take him back and he bought it. He was even grateful that I was talking to him again. Later in the evening, he texted me, “Thank you for loving me after everything I have done. I appreciate you very much.” I read the message but I didn’t mind him.

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The next day I sent him a message, “I need some money urgently. Can you help me? I will pay you back as soon as I can.” He asked me how much I needed, and I told him GHC1000. This guy told me to ask my friends for the money. “None of my friends are willing to help me. That’s why I am asking you,” I pleaded with him. He then told me he would ask his friends for the loan and get back to me. When he got back to me he said, “I found someone who will give me the money. But instead of GHC1000, I will take GHC1500 and keep GHC500 for myself. But you will have to pay back the full amount. Annie, you know I don’t have money so please try and pay back as soon as possible.” I agreed to his terms and he sent the money.

I took the money, knowing fully well that I would be leaving Ghana for the UK in the next three days. I had absolutely no intention of paying back the money. And his friend wouldn’t come after me. So this guy would have no choice but to repay his friend from his own pocket. I knew GHC1000 wouldn’t cover all the money he had taken from me but it was enough for me. I just wanted to give him a little dose of pain for all the pain he caused my heart.

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The day I left, I texted him a simple message, “I am leaving town and I won’t be back for a while. So use all the monies you took from me in the past to pay for the loan you took from your friend.” I blocked him before he could respond. I blocked him on Facebook too. He doesn’t have any access to me anymore. However he manages to pay the loan is not my problem.

His inconsistent behavior made me lose confidence in myself. I believed that the so-called love he gave me was all the love I was worth, but now I know better. I deserve a man who will choose me and take care of my heart, not someone who would take advantage of my kindness and leave me when I no longer serve his purpose. I know I will not heal the damage he has caused me overnight, but I am working on myself. By and by, I am regaining my confidence. I am learning to find contentment with myself, and when the time comes, the right man will come my way. In the meantime, I am loving myself all the way.

–Annie

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