She had a best friend—a guy she had known long before I came into the picture. She told me the guy was the son of her mother’s friend, so even her parents were aware of their friendship. I wasn’t worried about him until something didn’t make sense to me.
Whenever she wasn’t with me, she would be with this guy. We had dated for over five months, but I’d never met any of her friends, yet she hung out with this guy and her friends regularly. I asked her what it meant. She said, “We’re all friends. He’s part of the squad.”
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One night, I showed up unannounced, and the guy was there. From all indications, he was going to spend the night. He was shirtless, lying on the sofa. When he saw me, he quickly put on his shirt and excused himself. I confronted her: “Gina, this isn’t what you said it was. It’s after 10 p.m. Why is he here?”
She told me our relationship might not last because of mistrust but said if I didn’t want to see the guy around her anymore, she would cut him off to make me happy. I told her to do it. I told her to stay away from him because he didn’t seem safe to be around.
For a long time, I didn’t see them together or see her post any photos of them. She posted a photo of us once with a sweet caption. When I didn’t see them together for over a month, I felt safe and secure, but I wanted to confirm that they were truly no longer in contact. So, every time she picked up her phone and typed her password, I discreetly recorded her until one day I zoomed in and figured out the password.
What I discovered shocked me. They had been friends with benefits for over two years. The guy had a girlfriend who was also a friend of Gina’s, but it seemed he liked Gina more. However, he couldn’t leave his girlfriend, so they dated secretly. By the time they broke up, Gina was already seeing me. In one of their messages, Gina assured him that she wouldn’t stop “doing the do” with him because of me. She was with me only because I was “way too kind.”
We broke up, even though I loved her deeply. She cried, apologized, and said she had come to love me so much that she was ready to let everything go. If it had been anyone else, I might have forgiven her, but that guy? No. I let her go.
A year later, we started talking again. We reminisced about the wonderful days we had and what could have been if it weren’t for that guy. She said she had been single because she didn’t believe she would find anyone like me again, and she was ready to start over if it was with me.
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I like her new demeanor—sober, reflective, and considerate. Every time I think about giving her another chance, the images of that guy flash in my mind. She no longer talks to him, and there’s evidence to prove it. It seems like she’s doing everything to make me happy and convince me to say yes. I want to, but I need to know: has it ever worked out with a cheater? For those who gave a second chance, did it work?
—Derrick
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It works but you need to be more careful this time around.
boss please go your way, leave her because she isnt worth it
It can work but it’s base on the level of trust you have. If you think you can’t trust her enough then just keep her at arms length. Once a cheat always a cheat.
Son, if you have had sex with her or any woman outside marriage it’s abominable to God. Don’t be angry that she cheat on you when you yourself fornicate.
Sincerely, why are we shameless to call out our cheating partners when everything shows we offend God on same subject?
I’m just fed up reading how ignorant people while fornicating, aborting pregnancies would then complain bitterly when cheated on.
Think about how you dishonur God and take back your sin partner.
You don’t deserve any better.
In case you are clean, then leave her and trust God to bring you a better spouce.
Shalom!
It never works bro, don’t do it even if she Is the last human on earth.
Bro,don’t give her another chance. Move on and find yourself a new person. There are alot of girls available. Keep searching you will find one. Don’t be fooled they are still together.