I feel like I have been bewitched by my ex-boyfriend. We dated fourteen years ago, but I can’t seem to get him out of my system. I am wondering if the reason I can’t get over him is because I was a teenager when we dated. We were crazy about each other. Everybody who knew us knew we were inseparable. He was very handsome so dating him came with great pride and joy.

I told myself I would love him forever. I was so sure that nothing would come between us. That was until Gabriel got the opportunity to travel to the United States. We were not ready to be apart but he couldn’t have passed up the opportunity. So he left.

Gabriel traveled to the States and left me in Ghana. We didn’t know how long he would stay there. So we didn’t agree to do a long-distance relationship. We broke up on mutual grounds.

Honestly, after the break up I couldn’t move on. I was still so much in love with him that I couldn’t bring myself to like someone else. I pined for him for several years. While I was nursing the heartbreak that resulted from his relocation, Gabriel got married. He said he did it because of documents. Besides, he was much older than me so he was ready for marriage.

Despite the fact that he was married, he still promised to marry me. “I want you to be my second wife,” he proposed. I was stuck in a place where I couldn’t move on. So I agreed to be his second wife. My consolation was that his first wife wasn’t a Ghanaian and didn’t live in Ghana.

Despite the fact that I was okay with marrying him, my family refused. They said there was no way they would support my marriage to a man who was already married. I was sad but once they said no, I couldn’t do anything to change their minds. We had to accept the painful reality that our love story was over.

My love life suffered after him. I moved from one bad relationship to another. I couldn’t meet anyone who made me feel as loved and appreciated as Gabriel did. After all my struggles, I finally got married three years ago. While my husband and I don’t have any kids yet, Gabriel is now a father of three.

My husband lives in the UK while I am still here in Ghana. Because we live apart, I get bored and lonely sometimes. So whenever Gabriel comes to town, I spend time with him. We just go out and catch up. Nothing else happened until two months ago.

He was in town two months ago. As usual, he called and asked us to meet. My husband was out of town and I could use some company. So I agreed to meet him.

That day didn’t end like most of our days. This time around we couldn’t control ourselves. After fourteen years of our break up, we ended up having shuperu again. I know I should feel bad about it but I don’t. That’s because I’m still in love with my ex.

We’ve been separated for all these years but he is still the only man I want. I have never loved anyone apart from him. I don’t even love my husband the way I love this guy.

When I am having intimacy with my husband, I have to close my eyes and picture Gabriel’s face before I am able to enjoy the moment and experience an orgasm. Meanwhile, my husband is a better lover than Gabriel. That’s why I don’t understand why I can’t get over him. Is it normal to still be in love with a man I dated fourteen years ago? Did he cast spells on me?

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He also says he still loves me. “I don’t have any feelings for my wife. You are the only woman I love,” he tells me. While I struggle to answer the question of my lingering feelings for him, I am also wondering if what he is telling me is true. Is it possible that he would still be in love with me after all these years? Or is he just pretending?

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I don’t know what to do with these feelings. I keep trying to squash it but I am powerless against what my heart wants. My husband is a good person. He deserves to be loved unconditionally by me. It’s just unfortunate that no matter how hard I try, I just can’t make it happen.

What am I going to do now? I feel like my ex and I are hurting our partners. And I would like to make changes. Please I need help. I need to overcome my feelings before I lose all that is dear to me.

—Edith

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