I’ve never had a stable relationship since I started dating. Any guy that comes into my life leaves without any reason.
I dated my first guy for 6years. I helped him with all my savings to relocate abroad. When he got there, he called to tell me he had found a woman so I should move on. I was heartbroken for weeks. I stopped myself from falling in love for three years. I wanted my next one to be someone I chose from patience. I wanted to get it right.
The next man I met was a soldier. When you put your heart in the hands of a soldier, you’re assured of safety. You believe they’ll go to war for you. They will scream “Ahooya!” and protect your heart. We had a child and planned for an engagement. We bought everything for the marriage. Just when I thought all was well, he left me and had five kids with five different women.
I thought he would go to war for me but he rather went to war against me and bombed my heart. I was tired. My heart was in tatters so I decided not to have anything to do with a man again.
l got posted to a village to work as a nurse. I have been working there for the past four years. I met a guy in this village. He works as a labourer in his father’s sawmill. I was so determined to make it work that his job as a labourer didn’t deter me. I was ready to love him right, help him grow to become a better man. I was really happy with this guy until one fateful day, his girlfriend told a friend of mine to tell me to stay away from her man.
She Cried That Day On The Altar
Eiii, a labourer too? I thought it was tough up there but not knowing it was tougher down there too. I didn’t leave. I didn’t allow the warning from the girl to push me away. I was there when the guy told me that he didn’t want to have anything to do with me again. I was broken. It looks like no matter how many times you get broken, there’s still some part of you that can still be broken. I cried the hell out of me.
I’m no longer crying but engulfed with questions. Am I the one who has bad taste in men? Or it’s written in my stars not to experience true love. It’s hard to understand my lot, trust me.
— Sandra
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My sister pray for your own man. God is a mighty provider.when you make plans include him .He makes things possible and easy for us. All will be well when you trust in God with all your heart and not man.
hello,
is it possible to find out from any of your ex’s if there is a particular trait that pushed him off? i had a female friend who was in a similar situation. I watched her for a while and saw first hand why good guys were leaving her. she did a bit of adjustment and is now married. yes prayer helps but sometimes the solution may be in making oneself less difficult to be with..i.e assuming that is a cause in the first place.
Sandra, if you allow low self-esteem to get to you, you’ll always wallow in self-pity, literally do everything in your power to make a man stay even when he doesn’t want you, you’ll constantly walk on eggshells around cos you don’t want them to leave. buh once you get out of that self-pity and start loving yourself, concentrate on making yourself happy, and have a great relationship with God, else you’ll go above and beyond for me and you won’t even see anything…God bless