My wife wants it all the time. Especially now that she is pregnant and riddled with mood swings. Whatever mood she is in tells her to do it. Here lies the case where I don’t have much interest in intimacy. I can go a whole year without doing it and I would be fine.
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Even before we got married, I never touched her. She was a church girl. The kind who never missed prayer meetings and midweek church services. As for Sundays, the church was her dwelling place. She would go in the morning and return in the evening.
She was very committed to her volunteer work in church. That’s how I saw her, a fellow sister in Christ. So I couldn’t bring myself to have anything sexual to do with her when she agreed to my proposal that we get to know each other for marriage.
Oh, she wanted it back then too. She told me how much she liked it. She tried to initiate it a few times but I always stopped her. “What’s the rush? Let’s wait till marriage.”
The truth is, I didn’t take her seriously back then. I know how women bend over in all sorts of ways just to keep a man, especially at the mention of marriage. I thought it was one of those things with her.
I guess I just couldn’t wrap my mind around the thought that a woman who was so on fire for God would want to fornicate. I saw it as my responsibility to make sure she does not sin against God like that.
Every time she asked for it, I told her, “Imagine how satisfying it would be if we wait and do it in a way that would please God.”
While we waited, I had my little fun on the side with some of the women in my contacts. As I stated earlier, I am not so much into sex. So my experience with these women had nothing to do with an insatiable desire. It was more about sowing my wild oats before I finally commit to one person for the rest of my life.
By and by, I married Martha. Our wedding night was a marathon session. She couldn’t get enough of me. I did everything I knew to please her. Maybe that was the problem.
“Let’s go again,” she would say after climbing down from a climax.
I would get my little man up and ready, and give her everything I had in me.
“That was nice. Do it again,” she would say.
This went on all night. At some point, I couldn’t even get it up anymore. My little man was weak. No more juice. I had to beg her to let me sleep.
That’s how she used me very well throughout the honeymoon. No amount of prowess was ever enough to satisfy her.
I tried to match her energy but I couldn’t keep up. I had to sit down one day and admit that I am not that type of person. I can’t be in the mood to do it all the time. Embracing this about myself is what is now causing problems in our marriage.
I haven’t touched her in eight months. I have stayed away for this long because she is pregnant. I am scared I will hurt the baby.
It hasn’t been easy turning her away. Mostly because her desire seems tied to her emotions.
When she’s sad, she wants me.
When she’s happy, she wants me.
When she’s angry, she still wants me.
If I were to go with these mood swings, we would be at it several times a day. But thankfully, I have chosen to stay true to myself.
Now she has resorted to crying in an attempt to change my mind. She even says, “My midwife says it’s important for me to have sex during pregnancy. If not it will affect me during childbirth.”
I don’t trust that advice to be true. I feel she’s just using it as a tool to manipulate me into becoming her pleasure toy.
I want to know if there’s any truth to what she claims her midwife is saying. If it’s true, then I will make the sacrifice. I don’t enjoy intimacy. I believe it doesn’t hold any value but I will do it if it’s medically necessary.
—Johnny
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Yes it’s true she will get depressed which can lead to suicide if care is not taken or the child might be born special due to the emotional, psychological stress she is going true because of you neglecting her sexually. You having sex with her will open her birth canal which will lead to an easy birth but you starving her will cause it to be closed and tight hence making the child birth difficult. The last but not least don’t neglect her cravings including sex because it will lead to post partum depression that is she might not eat which will affect the child because there will be no breast milk hence leading to stunted growth in babies and the worst is her hating the child because of you not helping her during and after child birth. So I will encourage you to listen and shower her with love and attention during this period and after like helping her bath herself and the baby, no heavy lifting because she will bleed heavily , taking care of the child when she exhausted .You doing this will enable you to bond with the baby and will afford mommy the strength she needs to take care of the family.
Which one is …”don’t neglect her cravings…”?!
According to the story, this woman craves sex several times a day.
With this, are you saying the man should destroy himself to satisfy her?!
Men are built differently, compared to women. With semen release, comes the expenditure of huge amount of energy in men! Now, imagine him ejaculating several times a day, come-on! That would be immensely exhausting physically and mentally. There’s no way he can truly be productive with such lifestyle.
Several rounds of sex in a day is not good for men please. The woman should work on herself and be disciplined enough not to be a slave to her cravings.
Moderation is the key. She’s a typical nymphomaniac, according to the story.
I don’t even know where to begin from with Maameafua. Most of what you have said is false. You don’t need to have sex to prepare for childbirth. The man doesn’t need to loosen up the birth canal with his penis. The diameter of the average foetal skull is 9.5cm, so the penis ain’t doing shit for the birth canal. But luckily, the female body produces progesterone which helps to relax the pelvic floor in preparation for childbirth. Not to mention that labour is a complex and well- regulated process with intricate hormonal interplay all leading to the birth of a usually healthy child that literally requires no input from the male partner’s penis to move things along.
Secondly, the absence or presence of sex during pregnancy cannot cause a baby to have birth defects.
Thirdly, your highly colourful scenario in which sex deprivation leads to post partum depression, lactation failure and subsequent starvation of the baby, while hugely entertaining has no basis in facts. If push came to shove, there’s infant formula.
Having said all this, the recommendation for the frequency of sexual intercourse during pregnancy is according to the inclination of the pregnant woman. And the emotional state of a woman during pregnancy is important for her general wellbeing and the wellbeing of her child. It’s absolutely ridiculous for you to starve your wife sexually for 8 months because you’re worried about the baby. Kindly put the poor woman out of her misery and stop using your unborn child to welch out of your conjugal duties.
If you don’t believe her then follow her to the hospital to hear it for yourself,what kind of punishment is this simply bcos you don’t like it does it mean someone should suffer,or you want her to get it somewhere
The Bible says you shouldn’t deny your partner his/her cojugal rights. So if your wife cheats on you, you deserve it. Eight months of starvation. I just can’t imagine the trauma she’s battling. Pregnancy is no excuse. In fact, all she said about her mid-wife advice on sex during pregnacy is gospel truth. Apologise to her and make effort to meet her needs.
you’ve heard it all, change your mind
why should you starve your wife for eight months? remember that marriage is a shared sacrifice
Please don’t stress her oo else post partum depression go set in even after delivery.
It wouldn’t harm the baby in any way if there’s no medical issue.
Please try wae na it’s not easy.
Which one is …”don’t neglect her cravings…”?!
According to the story, this woman craves sex several times a day.
With this, are you saying the man should destroy himself to satisfy her?!
Men are built differently, compared to women. With semen release, comes the expenditure of huge amount of energy in men! Now, imagine him ejaculating several times a day, come-on! That would be immensely exhausting physically and mentally. There’s no way he can truly be productive with such lifestyle.
Several rounds of sex in a day is not good for men please. The woman should work on herself and be disciplined enough not to be a slave to her cravings.
Moderation is the key. She’s a typical nymphomaniac, according to the story.
Should I insult you?
You have time to be reading stories here and not make time to read about sex during pregnancy.
Once a week for someone who’d want it daily isn’t too much to ask and enough a way to meet her half way.
Better make it up to her before she gives birth to avoid postpartum depression.
Also learn how to make her emotionally satisfied if you can’t physically
Marriage is another work among the million definitions of what it is
You and your wife are simply amazing. What extreme examples of hypocrisy.
Your church girl wife who desperately seeks to commit fornication.
Then you, who refuses because you view her as a sister in Christ only to turn around and freely fornicate with other women.
I don’t know whom you were both planning to please with your hypocritical behaviour, but it couldn’t have been God.
Just wonderful people.