I  was in a relationship with Ama when I met Akosua. Her beauty and composure drew my attention to her. I liked her so much that I forgot all about Ama. A few days after talking to Akosua, I proposed love to her. She accepted it and we started dating. Both my women were good to me. They loved me as much as I also loved them. I invited both of them home but it was Akosua my family liked. My mother and sisters were in love with her. She didn’t need to call me before coming over.

Our relationship continued even after I completed school and got a job in a private company in Accra. I was new to the work and the work required a 12-hour shift. Regardless, I managed to get time and talk to both my women, I wanted to choose one among the two but I was yet to make a choice.

While I was still figuring out whom to choose among the two, Akosua found out about Ama. When she confronted me about my cheating ways, I denied it. However, she was like a dog with a bone. She took Ama’s number from my phone but I had no idea. She went ahead to ask Ama about the nature of our relationship and Ama told her everything. Akosua got upset and dumped me.

That same year, I slept with one of Akosua’s friends. She found out a few days after she organised a small birthday party for me. I am not proud to admit it but I slept with her friend to prove that she cannot trust any of her friends. It was just around the same time that she found out about Ama. She broke up with me. I admit that I deserved that. After the breakup, I was lost and didn’t know what to do. I felt something had left my body. I spoke to my mother about my stupid behaviour and she warned me never to repeat that mistake again. “Your father doesn’t cheat so learn from him,” she went on.

My mom talked to Akosua and she forgave me. I was back to being a happy boyfriend again. Akosua took me back thinking I had broken up with Ama, but I hadn’t. I continued to string Ama along until I found out she (Ama) slept with my school father. She said it was because I wasn’t giving her enough attention. I used that as an excuse to break up with her. And declined all her attempts at having me over at her house.

I gave all my attention, time, and money to Akosua, and ignored Ama most of the time. One time I was suspended from work for a whole week. I asked Akosua if I could spend the days off at her place but she refused. So I decided to call Ama and go to her instead. I know I shouldn’t have but I didn’t want to be alone.

I got there and we spent the weekend together. She used one of my finest tops to create video content and all that. After the weekend, I went to my parents’ and Akosua came around. In the evening,  Akosua was at my place again but this time she was angry. She showed me a video of Ama wearing my shirt. I didn’t know they were still in contact. I denied everything she accused me of. I even told her, “Just because I have the same shirt she is wearing doesn’t mean hers is mine. Am I the only one they made that shirt for?” She didn’t mind me. She went to talk to Ama again and once again, Ama told her everything. She even included screenshots of us sexting.

Akosua was broken, and sad. And so was I. I pleaded with her to forgive me and she did. The day before I left for work, we even had intimacy. I thought it meant we were back together, not knowing that she was just wishing me goodbye. It was after I left that she texted me saying, “I have had enough of your lies and infidelity. I don’t want you anymore.” I almost went mad. I could not eat or sleep. I could not concentrate at work. I even spoiled someone’s car due to a lack of concentration at work. God being so good, they didn’t sack me.

This incident happened in April of last year. I have been begging her for one last chance but she says she has no feelings for me anymore. I told my mom about it again and she was so mad at me that she told my dad about my behaviour. I pleaded with my mom several times before she agreed to talk to Akosua on my behalf. When my mum spoke to her, she seemed to have forgiven me. However, after they finished talking, Akosua called and insulted me. “Forget about me and move on. You and I will never happen again.”

My mom came in again to reason with her one more time but Akosua remained firm in her resolution. My sisters tried their best to win her over to my side but that didn’t work either. Akosua’s brother came into the picture but he couldn’t change his sister’s mind. I even reported myself to one of my cousin’s husband who is a pastor. He also tried his best to earn me her forgiveness but nothing happened. When they are talking to her in my presence, she would agree to everything but once they leave she would tell me, “Forget about everything they said. Nothing will ever happen between us again.”

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I have tried to move on but it’s hard. Her friends pleaded on my behalf but she didn’t listen. At some point, my ex Ama called Akosua and assured her that the fact that I chose her means she is the one I truly love. Still, it didn’t work.

Earlier this year, I went home for a visit. I asked Akosua if I could see her but she said no. I went there anyway. She couldn’t sack me. I spent the night there but she didn’t allow me to touch her. Another time I went again. While she was sleeping, I took her phone to know what she was up to. I didn’t know her password then but I had a few guesses. The first one didn’t work. But the next one did. I found out she slept with one of her male friends. When I confronted her, she admitted that she did it for money. This was a guy who always came up in our relationship, and we always fought about him. Why did she have to go to him?

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All the years we dated, she never worked. I was the one providing for her basic needs. Even now that we are no longer together, I provide for her when she asks. Before I left for work this year, I visited her again and we got intimate. I didn’t force her. We were both moved by desire. I still love her. I am no longer the man who cheated on her. She told me so herself. She remarked that I have changed.

I asked her, “Apart from my lying and cheating ways, what else don’t you like about me?” She said, “It’s just that. Nothing else.” I then asked if she would forgive me so we try again but she said no.

I want to ask the ladies here, whether or not they think I deserve a second chance. I have been begging this lady for a year. It’s not just words. I go with gifts, declarations of love, care, and attention. They say men can’t change but there is one woman a man will change for. When it comes to me, Akosua is the one. I have changed. She even said so herself. What else can I do for her to give me another chance? Ladies, please help me out here.

—Nana Yaw

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