There are three reasons I can’t marry her:
1. She doesn’t want to marry me because of what society would say.
2. I’m already married.
3. The nature of my marriage doesn’t allow for a second wife due to court-related issues.
But this lady has been everything my wife is not—except that my wife is more beautiful than her.
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I met her as a friend. She sold to me and later became a good friend. Since I’m not living with my wife, I invited her over one day, and everything started from there. People say the other woman is always after money, but this one isn’t after anything. She likes me as a person and always wants the best for me.
I used to tell myself I didn’t have time to do anything apart from work. She would look at my face and say, “Why is your facial hair so bushy? Get it trimmed.” When I resist, she will take me by the hand to the salon and have it done. She would sit under my feet and get my toenails trimmed, and later my fingernails. She would cook meals she thought were better for me. “Too much oil—don’t eat this.” “It’s too late—don’t drink this or eat that.”
I used to drink beer late at night and sleep on an empty stomach. My wife never complained or said anything about it, but this lady said no, and because she was consistent, I’ve stopped drinking.
One day, I went home after a month of being away, and my wife looked at me and said, “It looks like you’ve got a woman there taking care of you. You’re not the kind to take care of yourself like that.” She looked at my toenails and told me I was getting pedicures at a spa.
My wife is not a bad person. She has her strengths, and she does her best. If I hadn’t met this other woman, I wouldn’t have known there’s more I could get from a relationship. I don’t compare the two to make one look bad or better—far from it. I appreciate them both for the good things they bring to my life, but it has made me look at marriage differently.
I tell myself, “Maybe this is why we need more than one wife—because one can’t suffice.”
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One woman can’t be everything and do all things, so you marry two women to complement each other. You look at your wife’s weaknesses and find another woman who is strong where your wife is weak. That way, you have a balanced life as a man. I’m starting to think about polygamy differently and want to have this conversation. Isn’t it about time we went back to the olden days and practiced what our forefathers practiced?
Who knows? Cheating could become a thing of the past.
—Collins
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A woman also has needs that cannot be satisfied by one man. I guess it’s fair for her to also start filling in the gaps with another man.
Base line is, one cannot be enough for anyone. You learn contentment. It comes with maturity…
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Just as one woman cannot be all things and do everything for a husband, so one man cannot also be all things and do everything for his wife.
So in opening up the conversation about polygamy, shouldn’t we also be looking at the needs of the women too to have two or three husbands so they can also get the all round treatment as the husbands will have when they have two or three wives?
Consider you have two wives to give you an all round treatment and each of your wives also have one additional man besides you just so they can also enjoy an all round treatment, wouldn’t that be chaotic?
In life, we can’t get everything we desires and we must learn to be content with what we have though we continually strive for the best.
I totally agree.
As John Lennox said, “Nonsense is nonsense even when spoken by world famous scienctists” .
Oh! How I love John Lennox. A man of science and an amazing faith in God. Now back to the issue, primarily your beliefs or values determines the kind of marriage you want. But God been the creator and originator of marriage states in his law that a man will leave his parents house to cleave to a woman and not women . The fact that something is good does not make it right. Every action has a consequence as well. Don’t let your emotions fool you, God can not be mocked . Best regards
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There’s some sense of entitlement in marriage that lulls one into complacency. One must be deliberate and intentional to keep the embers burning and it’s not peculiar to a single gender.
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“what seems right in the eye of man may end up been the path that leads to his death”. The devil makes sin in a way that makes it look good and awesome. Bro, this is part of the temptation that leads Adam to sin. Be aware now before you will end up saying ” HAD I KNOWN”.