I was young, ambitious, and ready to take on the world. Well, technically, not the world at large. But I was going to start small. I was going to start from the Greater Accra Regional SRC. I was vying for one of the executive positions even though I was in my first year at SHS. The manifesto reading was held at the Labone Senior High School in 2018. I remember how nervous I felt before I mounted the podium. But when I started speaking, my nerves calmed down. I felt my confidence rise with every word I spoke. And I sailed through my manifesto eloquently. After I finished reading, the room was filled with cheers and applause, and I smiled brightly to conceal the fact that I was nervous again.
While I was climbing down the podium, a guy walked up to me and introduced himself. “Hello Yvette, I just want to say that your manifesto is very moving. You have won my vote. I am Killian by the way.” It was his confidence that got my attention. It was the surety in his steps. He walked as if he owned the place. And I saw the way all the other students hailed and high-fived him as he walked me to my seat. So I gathered that he was kind of popular among the schools present at the meeting.
When I sat down I said, “Thank you for your support.” And he answered, “I want to keep in touch with you, so give me your number and let’s talk after this is over.” I gave my number to him and he left. The moment he turned around, one of my seniors said to me, “Yvette, be careful of that boy. Everyone here knows that he is a womanizer.” The warning didn’t make me want to be careful of him. No, it rather piqued my curiosity. I wanted to know if he truly was what people said he is, or if there was a soft heart behind the face he showed the world.
That is how we became friends. The more I got to know him the more he intrigued me. This guy looked like someone who didn’t care about anyone, but he was so caring toward me. He was always by my side when I needed him to be. We were both students but there was nothing I asked him for that he didn’t give me. It was only when he didn’t have money that he would say, “Yvette, I wish I could help but I can’t right now. I’m so sorry to disappoint you.” It always amazed me how he felt obligated to always show up for me. I enjoyed every bit of it and I was thankful that I had finally found a boy who would do anything for me just because we were friends. It was nice.
In 2020, things changed between us when Killian introduced me to an older guy who was like a brother to him. The guy expressed interest in me shortly after we were introduced. I also liked him so I gave him my attention. Soon enough, we were dating. When I told Killian about it he looked hurt. He cautioned me, “Yvette, be careful of him. He has a wife. He won’t take you anywhere.” Oh, to be young foolish. I remember telling Killian, “Yes, I know he is married. He says he will make me his second wife that’s why I’m okay being with him.” Killian got angry, “How can you believe such a thing? He is lying to you.” I was in love so I got defensive. I told him, “You don’t understand our relationship. Besides, do you know the things people said to me about you before I still became your friend? I believe in getting to know people for myself.”
He wasn’t pleased with my choices but he stood by me. Sometimes, this married guy would ghost me, and I would run to Killian crying. He would laugh at me and say, “I told you so.” But then he would console me. In 2021, the married guy helped me to enrol in remedial school so I could rewrite the subjects I failed in my WASSCE. However, he was still very inconsistent with me so I left him. After the breakup, Killian invited me over to his place. I went there with no questions asked. I remember that the only thing I drank was coke, yet I started feeling drunk.
Before I could get my head right, my trusted friend, Killian was all over me. He was trying to sleep with me in my drunken state. I was very confused but I firmly told him, “No. I can’t do this with you. I don’t like you like that. We are just friends.” He became upset and told me, “You are such an ungrateful girl, Yvette. After everything I have done for you, you are telling me we are just friends.” I was sad to hear him say that but I wasn’t feeling right so I left his place. Later I asked him, “Why did I start feeling drunk after drinking the coke you gave me?” He was silent for a while before saying, “Sometimes coke does that to people.” It was a naked lie that even a toddler wouldn’t buy. But because of our friendship, I didn’t push it.
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After all the ups and down we went through, he suggested that we go out and spend some time together. I missed him so I accepted his invitation. When the day arrived for us to go, this guy told me, “I just realized that I don’t get any benefit from this friendship. So I have changed my mind. I won’t take you out anymore.” I felt hurt to hear those words. I had planned a gift to surprise him for all the times he was there for me when I needed him. But after he made the statement, I deleted his number. However, I felt we had to discuss the problem in our friendship, so I sent him a message on Snapchat. In the middle of our chat, I said something he didn’t like so he blocked me out of anger. It wasn’t just on Snapchat he blocked me, it was on all social media platforms.
I have missed him so much but I can’t reach him. I know he reads stories here on this platform so I am hoping he will see this and get in touch with me. Killian, I am sorry that you feel I am grateful. Please unblock me so we can talk about things. I miss you.
–Yvette
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