He called me on the phone one evening and he was panting. He said there was something he wanted to discuss with me and he was begging me to say yes. Fiifi had been a friend for ages and I was ready to help him through anything. I told him, “Just go ahead. If it’s something I can do for you I won’t hesitate for a minute. I will go ahead and do it for you.” He told me, “It’s quite crazy but I believe you are the only one among the paddies who can pull it off that’s why I’m relying on you.” I asked him to go ahead and make his request.

He met a lady in the village where he works and proposed to her. According to him, the lady said no. When he pushed her for a while and he still got a no from her, he decided to give up and concentrate on building his ongoing relationship with his serious girlfriend. When he said that I laughed. I asked him, “You have a serious girlfriend but you still wanted another woman?” He laughed it off. He asked, “Is it strange? Is it something you haven’t done before?” I might have done that when I was a boy but when I grew up and life started showing me what it meant to be an adult, I put a stop to it.

From all indications, my brother here didn’t know when to fold up from the cheating business. He has a girlfriend he has dated for almost four years. They were about to get married yet, he had the zeal to go after another woman who wanted to be loved just right. The woman, I think gave him a little hard time so he started withdrawing. Just when he was withdrawing, the lady also started falling for him. She’s Jennifer. One afternoon, the lady told him she was going to accept his proposal on one condition; that there wasn’t going to be sex before marriage.

Fiifi accepted the deal knowing very well that he couldn’t abide by the rule. He had a game plan and it worked. He did everything within his power to prove to the lady that he could be trusted so just after a month into the relationship, they had sex and from there, sex became the game. Four months later, he’s closer to getting married to his long-time girlfriend and he wants a way out of the relationship with Jennifer. After telling me the story, I asked him, “So where do I come in?” He answered, “You know the place I work is a village. Little things impress them so I want you to come around and meet her ‘accidentally’ and make her fall for you. I will catch you both and I will walk away from the relationship.”

I laughed out loud as if I’d heard the craziest joke of the century. I asked, ‘Are you serious? This is boyish. Why don’t you tell her that your feelings are no longer with her and walk out? Do you have to go through all that?” He said, “It’s no easy. She’s a good girl. I don’t want it to look like I used her. I should have a reason to leave her and this would make it easier.”  “And what makes you think she will fall for this?” I asked. He answered, “It’s a small town. They all want to travel to the city. When she gets to know that you’re from the city and are ready to take her along, she’ll forget about me and follow you. I will catch you and the two of us will disappear.”

I had a heavy heart towards what he was asking me to do but a friend in need ought to be helped so I agreed to help out. From Accra to the village is like one and a half-hour journey. When the traffic from Accra is huge, then it would take a little bit longer. I followed him to the place one day and I told myself, “It better work easily so I pull out early without having to come to this place again.” 

I was standing about fifteen meters away watching him talking to the girl. You look at the way the girl relates to him from afar and you realize how deep the girl is into him. She is beautiful in every way. She doesn’t look like someone who belongs to the village. I was watching and judging. 

When the girl was leaving, I followed her. When we were off the view from where they met, I called her. She stopped and courteously responded to my greetings. I said, “I’ve been seeing you around. Do you live around here?” She smiled and answered, “Yes, not too far from here but I come around here often to see someone.” I asked, “Well, you look like a very good girl and I would like to be friends with you. What’s your name?” Shyness set in. She looked away while talking to me. She didn’t mention Jennifer. She said she was Maadwoa. I asked if I could get her number to call her and she gave it to me. I started bragging, “As we speak now I’m on my way to Accra but because of you, I will come here often if only you’ll agree to be a very close friend. I can even take you to Accra so you begin a new life there. This place doesn’t deserve a beauty like you.”

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The smile on her face vanished. She said she would be a friend and that I should call him when I get to Accra. I came back and called this girl’s number several times and she didn’t pick up. I sent her a text but she read it and never responded. “Maybe she can’t read so let me send her a voice note.” I did a very long voice note and sent it to her but she didn’t get back to me. I called Fiifi, “Chaley, your girl no dey pick my calls ooo. I don’t think this will work. Just find another way. I’m already tired.” He brought up a new plan. He said, “That’s even better. She’ll come to my place this evening. Call her consistently. If she doesn’t pick, I can use that as a reason to pick up a fight.”

That evening I called and she cut the call. According to Fiifi, immediately after my call came through, she started narrating how we met to Fiifi. She told him how I was forcing myself to be her friend and how I’d been calling her every day. Right there, she gave her phone to Fiifi to answer my call. He told me, “Charley, it looks like it won’t work.” I responded, “Clearly, it won’t but you’re not the only man who left a woman without a reason. Go to her and give her the classical line, “It’s not you. It’s me. You’re a good woman who deserves a better man than me.” Those lines work. Use it and walk away before it’s too late.”

His wedding is only a month away and he’s still not able to find a reason to break up with her because the girl is not giving him any reason. When he comes home and the girl calls her, he won’t pick up. For the weekend he would be in Accra, and he won’t pick up her call, expecting her to get angry but this lady would meet her on Monday morning and act as if nothing happened. My friend is getting depressed from the way things are going. So I asked him, “What’s the worse that could happen if you leave her without a reason?” He answered, “Bro, this place is a village ooo. They don’t mind cursing you and your generation.” I laughed. He said, “Don’t laugh. It’s a serious matter.” I asked him, “Looking at how she loves you, do you think she would do that?” He answered, “I doubt she would but when love goes sour, anything can happen. We haven’t dated for long but everyone around her knows me including her parents. They can even influence her.”

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My friend is planning his wedding while thinking about what could be if he doesn’t walk out before it’s too late. I want to do him a big favour. I want to reach out to the girl in whatever form and tell her what’s going on. Obviously, my friend can’t tell her but if I say it to her anonymously it will push him to resolve the issues before the wedding. If there’s compensation he has to pay to the girl or there’s a tradition he has to go through to free himself, he could do all that before entering into marriage. Do you think it’s a good idea? Is it a betrayal of friendship if I tell the lady regardless of the intention behind my actions? Please help. 

—Kesse

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