We’ve dated for five years, and throughout these years, I have been her breadwinner. Everything that concerns her has fallen on my shoulders because when you love someone, you take good care of them.
Because of my support, she is currently in her final year at nursing school. All was well, or at least, I thought we were happy. We met, laughed, talked, carried each other through our dreams and failures, had good sex, and all. Again, I thought I was in a happy, healthy relationship until I came across a chat with one of her besties.
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According to my girlfriend, she has lost feelings for me, and nothing about me attracts her anymore. But she is still with me because I support her financially, and I am the only guy in her entire life she has seen who has shown true love to her. She added, “I am afraid if I leave him, I’d not find anyone like him ever again. The streets are wild. I don’t know how I would find my footing out there.”
Her friend, God bless her, told her to leave me alone if she no longer loves me.
Reading the message sent a wave of shock and pain through me. I cannot begin to tell you how many sacrifices I have made for her comfort. School, work, her well-being, all so that I can have a virtuous wife at the end of the day.
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I have not confronted her about the chat yet, but from the look of things, I think I want to part ways with her. It is not an easy thing to say aloud. Who would have thought this day would come when Catherine would just be in this relationship because I pay?
Is it better to confront her about it or let sleeping dogs lie and quietly walk out of the relationship?
— JOHN
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Cut your losses and leave. It’s painful but try. Don’t ask her anything . Leave her to God.
Marriage isn’t a poverty alleviation program for young women.
Know that well as a young man.
Confront her so you can get it out of your system. Thank God you found out before you said “I do”.
Sometimes I wonder how some people equate dashing money and material things to someone they are having affairs with as showing love, and the person accepting it as owing them love. Please, you were spending on her while she was giving you sex; transactional — that must be it. Move on and don’t be emotional about it. After all, even a marriage of 50 can collapse.
When we tell you not to sponsor a lady’s education unless she is your daughter or sister or just someone you want to help without any strings attached, some of you won’t listen. You see your life? 99 percent of women are ungrateful. Imagine how much returns you will have made if you had invested all you spent on her in Epack or Mdund at Databank? Sorry for your loss. Lessons learnt the hard way!