I work in one of the most respectable security services in Ghana. I know when I put out my grievances here, your followers will say, “Eiii, so officers also go through such challenges?” Yes, when it comes to love or a broken heart, there is nothing like, “I am an officer, so I am exempted.” This officer here is not a heartbreaker. I am here with my grief story.

Loretta and I have been dating since 2022. She was in nursing school, and I was willing to marry her as quickly as possible so we could start a family, but she was still in school. I waited. She finished her exams, and I brought up the issue of marriage. I asked her when it would be appropriate for us to go and see her parents, properly introduce me, and later allow me to bring my family to ask for her hand in marriage.

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She said to me that I should wait. “I am not in any capacity to get married.” I assumed that marriage had always been on the list for us, whether we liked it or not, so it took me by surprise a bit. But okay, I told myself I would give her the time she needed to be ready.

Once in a while, I would mention it. Marriage, marriage. It became my go-to word, so she knew I was serious about it. But every time I brought it up, my madam would say she was still not ready and add, “But if you have someone who is ready to marry you right now, please, go ahead. I will not keep you waiting.” No, there was no one else. Only her and her, only.

Depending on her mood, she would ask that we break up. In a month, let’s say we could break up about five times. If I am at work, then trouble. My heart will be in the pit of my stomach, like someone has held my heart and is playing with it. I will have to call and ask if I have done something that warrants the breakup.

She would then come back and be like, “I was just testing you.” She always does that anytime we have small arguments. Then it is, “Let’s break up.” After that, she has to come back begging me to forgive her. Again, I will forgive her.

It is not easy to walk away from someone that you have invested so much in. Since her nursing school days, I have been taking care of her. Every month, I scrape the bottom of the food chain and ensure that I send her an allowance worth GH¢500 and buy her credit too.

She got a job as a home carer after school. Maybe when she started seeing some small money, then she started flying her colours. If you say one, she will say ten, which is fine, express yourself, but not replying to texts, picking up unnecessary fights, and all that.

Anyway, something happened some weeks ago, and it has been doing my mind something. She paid me a visit that day, and I gave her the phone I had been meaning to gift her for some time now. She has been using an XR for a long time. She has tried. You can even use the phone to iron your attire for church service. It was just time to change it.

She saw the phone, opened the box, and jumped, squealing for joy like a starved monkey that had been gifted a banana. Even I had a smile on my face. After screaming, “Thank you,” she now said to me, and this is where the shocker is: “Babe, in fact, follow me. Let’s go and see my parents so that we get married right now.” I went like, “Eh, Loretta, you said what?” I guess, full of emotions, she repeated it again.

Now, I questioned her. “So if it was not for the phone, you would not let me go and see your parents so that we marry?” She was just looking at me like a toy. Blinks. Stare.

Aside from this, there are quite a number of distasteful things I have suffered from her hands. I can’t write it all. If I do, one of you will find me and beat me up, so it is fine. There is more. I think she has seen a couple of my investment and business documents that I have kept hidden in my wardrobe. Some days ago, she was trying to be inquisitive, asking me unnecessary questions about it. It clicked to me: “Nah, this girl has seen something she should not have seen.”

True to my suspicion, days after, she was asking me questions pertaining to my business, something I had never told her before. She even said, “But you are secretive oo.”

But is Loretta telling me that, upon all the money and the things I have been doing for her, none of that warrants marriage, but after giving her an iPhone, we should go and see her parents? It is either that, or she has gone through my confidential documents and seen a couple of my investments and business partnerships and seen that this boy will soon touch gold, so she also wants some of it.

I can’t eat or sleep because of it. Marriage is a very big deal. I don’t want to marry and regret it. I don’t want to marry twice. I don’t want to have an ugly marriage. I want peace and quiet and love. The kind of marriage God has ordained for us.

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And Loretta, I don’t know. I really don’t know if I should go ahead and marry her because what if I marry her and I go through a tough time? Won’t this girl leave me for a rich man? I should wait small, right, and test the deep waters first? Or should I go ahead and see her parents?

— Aban Eric

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