So sometime last year, I met a lady here under one of your posts. It was under a story, one of the silent bead’s posts. She shared an interesting kind of comment, and I replied, and she replied, and I replied. I found her very interesting, intriguing, in fact, if you may call it. Then we moved to direct messages, and we got talking there seriously.

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We talked about the stories we read, we talked about some comments made, and we laughed over the ones we found funny, the ones we found serious, we discussed them at length. Sometimes we talked about even the admin’s comment. My work takes me out of the country for most part of the year, and it happened that when we started talking, I was still away on one of my work trips.

When feelings were growing, it was evident in our conversations. When I asked her if she had eaten, when I asked her about her day and she did not just say it was good, she gave me details on how her day went. That was when she knew and I knew. So we agreed to date. It was not to date and see how it goes. It was to date and get married, and one day share our story on how we met under the comments section, and now married, expecting a little joy on the way. All these while, I was on the work assignment trip.

When I got home after my trip, she was the only one on my mind. How I was going to hug her, give her kisses on both cheeks and carry her while I hugged her so tight that her smile would be permanently tattooed into me. So immediately after I touched down in Ghana, I went to see her. Maybe I was feeling that way because we had been talking for six months, and so much that I wanted to see the lady I was coming to love immediately. I knew video calls would never do justice to her.

I returned after a couple of days, and then I was called back to work.

Everything changed after I left for work again. Calls would go unanswered, and when they were answered, we hardly talked as much as we used to. She didn’t even care about what I ate, which was very unusual. She didn’t nag when I missed her call and returned it. Texts became very short, with straightforward answers like “How are you?” “Fine.” “Have you eaten?” “Mm, yeah.” I felt we were falling apart and talked to her about it.

She started complaining about being lonely because I am not around. And that she wants me to quit my job and do something else that will keep me at home. Mind you, I’m still putting in the same effort as I used to when we started talking.

I asked her if she didn’t want this anymore. She couldn’t give me a precise answer. The most painful part is when I talk about settling down; she is always very vague with her answers. Sometimes all she says is that I want to marry her and leave her to be there alone.

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I don’t know what to do. I’m going crazy. She’s the only girl that has caught my heart after I nearly ran mad after I was served breakfast some five years ago. I really do like her so much, and I want to marry her and have a life with her after my breakup over five years ago. I feel like I’m losing her, and I don’t want to lose her. I want for this to work.

I am very confused. What do I do?

—Nii

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