We’ve been married for a little less than a year. In our house, we do a lot together. We are only two, so we don’t have a lot going on here. We clean together, wash together, and have a lot of fun doing it. My wife doesn’t like cooking. Of all the strengths she has as a woman, cooking isn’t one. That is the reason she doesn’t like cooking.
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If the food doesn’t burn, it will be undercooked. If it isn’t overly soggy, it will be so dry you’ll choke on it. But I don’t complain. She’s all I have.
Her mom came to visit and has spent a month here already. She was only passing through, but her health failed and she had to stay a little bit longer. Her mom cooked for us and cleaned up after us. Because her mom was around, my wife asked me to stop doing all the things I did around the house so her mom wouldn’t think her daughter was being lazy and overusing me. You know mothers and the conclusions they can draw.
Now it is time for her mom to leave, and my wife is telling me we should make her mom stay with us for a while and pay her. As for how long, she didn’t say. “See all the meals she cooks around here since she’s been around. Who’s going to handle that when she’s gone?”
Now it’s no longer a plea. It’s a whole demand; “My mom stays and helps,” she says. And since her mom is also not showing any sign of leaving, I’m beginning to believe it’s a plan she hatched with her.
I’m not angry. It’s her mom. If she wants to stay, I have no problem. At least we’ve been eating well-cooked meals. But to pay her to stay with us? Naaaa. We were doing just fine before her arrival. That won’t happen.
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I used to think I could handle her inefficiencies and take her as all I have, but the fact that she’s making this look like a major issue is also making me have a little regret for marrying a woman like her.
Her mom can stay and I won’t pay a dime, or she can leave with her mom and I still won’t pay a dime.
—Josh
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Let her go home with her mother. Wise up bro
If all the chores you’re doing are yours, why did she tell you to stop when he mom came in. She doesn’t want her mom to think she raise a bad daughter cause that’s basic and she should be able to handle them but yet she can’t. It’s ohk to help like you said, you’re partners but making it your duty is wrong and she knows it, hence why she asked you to stop.
Don’t pay anything. You’re even being too nice. She can’t cook and she’s not making any effort to learn how to and now she wants you to pay someone to do it plus other chores and….huh
She’s a fucking lazy human being and she is doing this shifty stuff cause you allowed it in the first place.
take bold decisions before you regret in the future. her mum can’t stay with you forever, it’s either u train and enforce her to cook well or ask her to go and learn from her mother. u may seem okay for now but it’s might be tough after welcoming children