He was a friend here in Ghana before he travelled abroad. He contacted me on Facebook and we started talking. One day he said he had been eyeing me since he was in Ghana but didn’t have the vim to propose. We laughed about it and he later proposed.

Our relationship was a few weeks old when he started asking me to snap-and-send. I didn’t do it. It was new to me. I didn’t feel confident enough to do such a thing. I was concerned about the security of the photos too. He said, “Your face doesn’t have to show. Just the thing.”

One day I did it and it became a routine. At least, once a week I sent such photos. He wanted more. He wanted videos. Not just videos but live ones. I said no. I kept saying no for months until out of frustration I said, “Two minutes is $100.”

Minutes later my Momo alert cried! Account credited. He said, “I’m ready for you now.” I shamefully set the camera on me and did a video call for close to three minutes. That also became a constant feature in our communication. At least, it happened once a week. When alert cries, I do it.

One night I turned on the camera for a video call and saw another guy with him. I quickly turned off the camera and asked what was going on. I was livid. I felt encroached. He sought to play it down. “He’s a friend who’s also interested. He hasn’t seen some since he came down here, please don’t be angry.”

It took days but I finally said yes because his friend was also going to pay. I was making $300 from them every week. I forgot about the relationship. It was more transactional than it was about love.

Now, the reason I’m sharing this story is that, after a few encounters with his friend, the guy started chatting with me backdoor that he wanted to start something with me. I thought it was a trap because he knew I was dating his friend. He told me his friend wasn’t serious about me blah blah blah but he wanted a good thing between us.

Currently, my boyfriend’s friend is in Ghana. He says he came because of me. If I say yes to him, we’ll begin a life together. He won’t let me live in Ghana. I’ll soon relocate and be with him.

Building the Perfect Relationship| Chat & Chuckles Ep15

Considering how we met and everything we’ve been through, can this be love? Even if it is, is it something that has a future? My boyfriend is drifting away. We hardly talk about our relationship, or talk about our future or even when he’d come to Ghana. It’s always snap-and-send or let’s do a video call. He even owes payment for three video sessions. I don’t think this will amount to anything but how about his friend?

—Akyedie

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