I want to tell Prince’s parents that there is no relationship between us anymore but I don’t know how they would take it. I didn’t report him to them when he started misbehaving. So they might think I am leaving him because he is sick. I doubt that even if I sit them down and give a compelling explanation for why our relationship has to come to an end, they would still tie it to his current state. That’s what I’d get for lingering too long in a place where my interests are not being respected.
When I think about my story with him, I wonder where it all went wrong. We didn’t begin on a bad note. I did not coerce him into the relationship. We found solace in each other in 2020 when the world was thrown into confusion and anxiety due to the COVID-19 pandemic. The connection we shared was everything to me. His voice was warmth on cold nights. And his jokes kept my heart company on lonely days.
I was a student living with my cousin in the same neighborhood he also lived in. So whenever I got the chance, I would go be with him. In 2021, I dropped out of school because of financial difficulties. When he noticed it and asked me I lied; “Oh, I haven’t left school. I am doing my attachment.” I was working at a shop so he didn’t know I was lying. I would go to work during the week and spend the weekends at his place.
I remember how scared I felt when I took a pregnancy test and the results were positive. A baby wasn’t the plan. I was supposed to work, save some money, and return to school. Let’s not forget the fact that I didn’t have a place of my own.
My cousin didn’t take it lightly when she learned about the pregnancy. She forced me to go and live with Prince. We started having issues from that moment.
He didn’t want me to keep in touch with my friends. Making new friends wasn’t on the table either. He went as far as picking fights with me because I greeted our neighbours in the estate.
One day I told him, “I am tired of being kept in your house as if I am a prisoner, just because I am pregnant. I want my freedom. I am leaving.” He objected to my decision and insisted I stay. When I refused he said, “I am sure you want to leave because you know the child is not mine. You are worried our proximity will lead me to the truth.” His statement put me in a tight corner.
On one hand, I wanted to leave for the sake of my peace of mind. On the other hand, I felt the need to prove to him that the child was his. I stayed in the end.
The fights and quarrels continued until I had the baby in May 2022. Shortly after that, he got the opportunity to travel abroad. I used that chance to move to my parents’ place.
I thought the distance would make us better somehow. “Maybe we will start missing each other when we are apart, and stop fighting,” I mused. It didn’t happen that way, unfortunately. Even from afar, we were still fighting. And so for the sake of peace, I limited communication with him. I made it a point to only talk to him when I needed something for the baby.
At first, he used to send us 10K every month. Then he reduced it gradually until he started sending nothing. When I complained, his mother reached out and told me, “Prince is sick over there. So he can’t send you and the baby money anymore.” I had nothing to stand on. I kept telling myself, “If this guy had started a business for me like I asked, I wouldn’t be completely broke.”
It was a difficult situation but I made the best of it. I got a job this year in a neighbouring country. So I left the baby with my mum and went to work.
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While I was working, Prince’s parents asked me to visit me with their grandson. I promised I would bring him when I got a break from work.
Throughout this period, Prince made no attempt to stay in touch with us. No call. No text. I am the one who always texts him. Regardless, of his behavoiur, I still showed up at his parents’ place when I got some time off work.
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My problem right now is his mother. She says I shouldn’t go back to my workstation. She wants me to terminate the rest of my three-year contract and live with her. That’s not something I can do. Lord knows I need money to take care of my baby and my family.
I have thought about telling his parents that I don’t have any relationship with their son anymore. And that it is only the boy who is connecting us. But what if they ask why I did not leave him all those times? They might think I am leaving now because he no longer has the ability to provide. Should I leave anyway? His people are kind to me so I feel bad about not wanting to stay with them. Will I be a bad person if I refuse their offer? My plan is to save some money and go back to school.
— Eugenia
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You’ll be the most foolish person to leave your job, abandon your plan and come stay with his parents because they asked you to. Why does his mother want you to leave your job and come stay with them. For what? Imagine you having to ask his parents or him for money to buy anything you want. Don’t overlooked the fact that if you become dependent on them, there’s a chance of them making a rag out of you. There’s the likelihood of you being maltreated. If you’re a family oriented person and want to consider having a family with him because of your child, ask his parents to go ask for your hand in marriage with the condition of you being able to work.
As long as you the relationship was running smoothly when he was strong and financially supportive, please kindly stay around and help him be on his feet again before leaving otherwise it will deepen the impression that ladies of late are in for their gain, once the sugar is finished the ants are out of sight.
Regarding the work, please don’t terminate it, explain it to his mom why you need to work.
Ask them why is their son not calling as he used to do?? Continue the calls and request to pay him a visit to know his thoughts.
I wish you all the best Eugenia
My dear never you stop work. Don’t pause your life because of someone who never even told you he was sick. He might have even gotten married or living with a woman and his family is covering up for him. How much is a call………. just 1min call???. Please move on with your life. Don’t tell them anything. If you see someone good along the way do get married. They want to waste your years but never you allow it to happen. You have a dream of going back to school, pls fulfill it, for a better tomorrow for you and the child.