She was specific about it. She said she couldn’t date me because I didn’t have a car. In her own words; “Not that I want to disrespect you but I won’t like to date a man who doesn’t have a car. It doesn’t make it easier that both of us will always be looking for how to transport ourselves from one place to another. We don’t even live close to each other.”

I was hurt. I had chased her for months and thought I was making inroads until she made that statement. “So what do you want me to do, get a car and come back?” I asked her. She responded, “You don’t have to kill yourself. I’m not the only woman. Someone will love you regardless so look for that person.”

It was hard but I took that advice. To make matters worse, months later, I saw her in the car of someone I consider a friend. When I saw them together the second time, I asked the person, “Are you two a thing?” He responded, “We are trying to see how it goes.”

This guy has a girlfriend. He doesn’t know that I know. His girlfriend is a friend of my friend’s girlfriend so I know very well that they are together. Burdened with this information, I called her, I mean the lady I proposed to, and told her, “Do you know the guy you’re seeing currently has a girlfriend? I’m not lying or jealous but I know the girl.”

She laughed at me. She said, “I know a guy like him will have someone somewhere. It’s normal. The most important thing is he wants me and I want him too so let the best person win.”

My face dropped. I felt like a fool but thinking about it, I was like, “All because he has a car?” I want to know, seriously.  Ladies, what is in a car that makes a man a hundred times more desirable than a man with a good heart and intentions?

Anyway, I’m here. I’m not saying it should end badly. If it goes well for her, good. If it doesn’t, good. It only means I have to work harder and be in a position where the next girl won’t say no to me. It hurts when all you hear is no from people you want a yes from.

— Manson

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