When we started dating I told Teye, “I am looking for something serious. If you know you are just looking for someone to have fun with then back off.” He assured me he wanted a serious relationship. I work as a shop attendant while he is a tiler. When we were getting to know each other, he told me about all the pain he had suffered at the hands of his family.

He said his dad did not allow him to further his education after high school. His sisters who live abroad have also decided not to help him. When it came to his love life too, he had nothing good to say about it. It was one terrible experience after the other. I also shared my horrible experiences with him. I let him understand how badly I had been hurt by my past loves. And we both agreed to be each other’s peace.

He runs to me whenever he needs help. And he always needs my help with something. We are both Thursday-borns who share the belief that Yaas and Yaws are empaths. We go all out just to see the person we love happy and content.

His demands first started when he came to tell me, “These days my work is not moving so I have no money. Can you send me something small to use as transportation? I have been called to check out a new job.” Everyone needs help once in a while. That’s why I gave him whatever he asked freely without asking too many questions.

Another time he asked me money to buy food. Then it moved to electricity for his apartment. All other expenses became a given after that. I bought him airtime when he ran out, and internet bundle regularly. He was always on the receiving end but I never complained. I felt I was in a relationship with someone who was building something solid with me. I would cook every evening and call him to pick his own up.

One night I visited him. After we were done having a good time together, I saw a number on his phone saved as Emefa. I asked who she was and he answered, “Emefa is my ex.” “Why do you have your ex’s number on your phone?” I asked him again. This time around he said nothing. When he saw that I was angry he explained that it is the lady who calls to talk to him. All he does is give her a listening ear.

Although I was not pleased with his response, I did not drag the issue out. Knowing him, he would have called me disrespectful if I had kept probing and insisted on uncovering the truth of his relationship with this Emefa lady. Anytime I exhibit signs that say I don’t want to be taken for a fool, he calls me disrespectful.

A few months into the relationship, my rent was due. My landlord asked me to move out so he could do some renovations. So I got a new place and left Teye behind in the old neighbourhood where he continued to live.

Sometimes he would call and ask me for money and I would send it to him. One day he travelled to the village to see his mother. That was when things started changing. He picked fights with me over everything. His visit to his mother’s place was supposed to last a week. But after a week, he said Accra was hard so he would extend his stay in the village.

Whenever I called to check up on him, I asked about his life over there. His answer was always, “My life over here is none of your business.” Sometimes he asked, “Why do you want to know?” His behaviour was suspicious. So one evening as a joke I asked, “Ever since you went to that village you changed. I hope you are not cheating on me. If you cheat, I will curse you o.”

All I needed was some assurance. “Oh babe, it’s only you that I have. There is no one else.” Something this simple would have ended everything. However, he resorted to anger instead. He shouted at me, “Why would you even say this to me? Are you my parents to curse me?” I also got angry and called him a cheater. If he wasn’t cheating he wouldn’t have gotten angry at a mere joke.

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His behaviour hurt me deeply. I tried to get him to apologize but he doesn’t see anything he has done wrong. At this point, I’m tired. I have given this guy everything, yet he can’t even tell me he loves me. He has never looked into my eyes during intimacy. When I tried to look into his eyes, he averted my gaze by kissing me.

Throughout the relationship, I have noticed he is only nice to me when he wants sex. When he is done, he treats me anyhow. There was a time when he told me that my pumpum isn’t meaty enough for him. I don’t even know what that means but I didn’t leave him for saying it.

I Called Her Affair Partner And He Said Something I Will Never Forget

I love him so much that I am willing to stick to his side through everything. Recently, we agreed that he should learn how to drive so he can work as a driver. I had to send him GHC1000 for him to add GHC500 to it and get his driver’s license. This is how far I am willing to go for him but it appears I am the wrong person for him.

I have decided that I can’t continue being his support while he offers me nothing in return. I told him not to call me again. I am also fighting with myself not to call him but it’s not easy. It’s paining me that I am willing to sacrifice everything for a man who won’t even go an inch for me. Why do good women meet the wrong men? I am so sick of him. He should go.

— Maame Yaa

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