My girlfriend is pregnant with my child. She is currently at her mother’s place preparing to have the baby. She thinks I am going to marry her but I have my own agenda. What she doesn’t know is that this pregnancy is her punishment. I intend to make her a single mother and then leave her. My best friend, Tiger, doesn’t agree with me. He says Kate is a good woman. “Bro, she stayed with you after all you put her through. Like it or not, it is your actions that pushed her to do what she did. So forgive her and marry her.” I don’t believe he is right. This is our story, me and Kate.

I met her in 2020. She was selling tilapia with her stepmum in front of my shop. I like to keep to myself but Kate wouldn’t let it be that way. She wanted me to be her friend so she started talking to me. Most friendships start on a light note but ours didn’t. She chose to confide in me when it came to her living situation.

According to her, she lived with her dad and stepmum while in an apprenticeship. Her dad couldn’t provide for her. It was her stepmum who gave her GHC4 every day for pocket money. She would go to work in the morning, close at 5:30 PM, and return home to help her stepmum make preparations to go and sell. She would then help the woman sell till 11:00 PM, only to receive GHC4 the next day for her efforts. I felt pity for her.

Once in a while, I would give her a little something to cushion her. I was doing all this as a friend. I also had conversations with her and encouraged her to keep pushing. I would sit with her until she closed and then help her park the stuff. By then her stepmum would have gone home to sleep. So I would walk with her until we got to a place where it was safe enough for her to go home by herself.

As time went on I realized she was catching feelings for me. She started saying things like, “I pray God gives me a good man to marry. I am not looking for a rich man but a good man who will understand me and love me the way I am.” One day when she said the same thing I responded; “If that’s the case then give me a chance.” She looked at me intently and said, “If only you would not disappoint me.” I said never. That was the beginning of our relationship.

She made me understand that I was her everything. “After God, you are my second hope.” Those were her words. I also assured her, “I know everything you are going through already. I promise to love you with all my heart, trust me.”

Only a week into the relationship I discovered that she was busy chatting with a guy called David. I asked her about him and she swore he was just a friend. This David guy had a girlfriend who didn’t care that he had a female bestie but I wasn’t okay with Kate’s friendship with him. I asked her to cut him off. She didn’t tell me no. She also didn’t cut him off. I saw this and decided that I wouldn’t even do up to the bare minimum in our relationship. I felt there was no need to take good care of a woman who has another man as her friend.

I knew she needed me to give her money but I decided to give her only GHC40 in a week. On my good days, I would give her GHC70. The only thing I ever bought for her was a brand new iTel phone in 2021. That’s the phone she is still using today. It’s in bad shape but I don’t intend to change it for her. The good thing about her is, she has never complained that I am not doing enough for her. She has also never asked for more.

She takes everything I give her with gratitude. Even when I think I gave her less than she deserved, she would thank me and pray for me the whole day. Every little thing, she appreciates it. I remember when she was graduating from her apprenticeship. She told me a month before the date but all I said was okay. I didn’t offer her any form of support.

As the day approached, she asked me for a loan. “I will pay it back when my mother comes for the graduation. She will give me the money.” All she needed was GHC400 but I gave it to her with the intention to collect it back. On the evening of the graduation day, I was at home when she showed up with her mother. They brought me some drinks and pies. The woman told me, “Kate said you are the one taking care of her. Thank you so much for your kindness. God bless you.” She proceeded to say a long prayer for me. The woman liked me so much but I felt I didn’t deserve all her praises.

Truly, Kate repaid my money after she returned from seeing her mother off. I asked her if her mother knew she had taken the money from me and she said yes. I felt some way. “You told her I am the one taking care of you yet you took money from her to repay a loan you took from me? How does that work?” She explained that I wasn’t her father so I was doing more than enough. I was surprised. I was even more surprised when I asked her to take half of the money and she started a whole thanksgiving service in my room.

Four months after her graduation, I asked her to move in with me and she did. The entire time she was still talking to this David guy. I read their chats and found nothing suspicious. Nonetheless, I asked her to stop talking to him because I didn’t want him in her life. As always, she didn’t say no. She just continued her friendship with him despite my reservations. This made me feel disrespected.

Honestly, I didn’t understand why she did everything I wanted in the relationship except cut off the David guy. There was even a time when she was seriously sick. It was malaria. I started touching her sexually. I expected her to resist because she was sick but she rather positioned herself to accommodate me. I stopped and asked her, “Are you seriously going to let me do it?” She shrugged, “If you’ve seen that I am sick but you still want to do it then what choice do I have?” Of course, I didn’t touch her. I had no intention to. I was only testing how far she would go for me.

In January this year, her mother fell ill. Her mother’s husband had also died and the funeral was in a month. She decided to take the opportunity to go see her mother and stay for the funeral. I gave her only GHC50 for her transportation. She took it with gratitude. A week later, her mother got better. Two weeks to the funeral, she called to ask for financial assistance. Her mother needed GHC500 for some of the funeral expenses. I told her I didn’t have it. She tried to beg me because she knew I could help. She even said her mum would repay the money but I insisted I didn’t have it.

After the funeral, her mum called and said, “Prince, I don’t have a problem that you didn’t attend my husband’s funeral. My question is, where is your donation?” I sent her GHC200 as my donation. This woman used the whole day to thank me.

I noticed something was wrong when Kate returned from the funeral. She had deleted some of her calls and chats. I asked her why she did that but she refused to talk. I also refused to let the matter go. “Kate, there’s no smoke without fire. You know me. As I have seen this, I won’t rest until I uncover the truth. Just tell me what you did yourself and we’ll work through it. But if you won’t talk, then today is your last day in my house.” That was when she said, “Prince, you know I love you. I didn’t intend to do it but I had no other choice.” What exactly happened?

According to her, her mum needed GHC1,000 but had only half of the amount. That’s why she asked me for the other half. When I didn’t give it to her she asked David but he also didn’t have it. She also couldn’t watch on for her mother to be insulted by relatives. So she called a guy she knew would give her the money. The only catch was that the guy had expressed romantic interest in her in the past. Indeed, this guy agreed to help. However, he wanted to eat her in return. She was desperate so she agreed.

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The minute she said yes, he sent her GHC700. “He told me he would come for the funeral so I should prepare and wait for him. Prince, you have to understand that the guy is an eʋe. I didn’t want to spend his money and not fulfill my end of the deal,” she said. So he showed up and they did it on the night of the wakekeeping. He even gave her an envelope containing GHC200 and declared her as his girlfriend before leaving. She waited for him to leave before telling him she wouldn’t date him and that she was still in love with me.

After narrating her story she went on her knees and begged, “Please, have mercy on me and forgive me. I know I don’t deserve your love again after what I did but for God’s sake, don’t leave me. I swear on my life that it will never happen again. God forbid but even if my mother is dying, I won’t cheat on you to get money for her treatment.” All I said was, “It’s okay, I forgive you. Let’s carry on.” So she thinks I have forgiven her.

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How can I be okay with her after she cheated on me? She doesn’t know that she is on her way to becoming a single mother. I am planning to leave her after she gives birth. I didn’t leave when cheated because I was planning my revenge: to make her a single mother before leaving so she would know how it feels to be betrayed by the one you love.

Now that you know the full story, tell me if I am right. Or was Tiger right when he said I pushed her to do it? If she had not refused to keep talking to David, I would have provided for her needs properly. That money she asked for, I would have given to her before she’d even think to ask. So while he thinks it’s my fault, she started everything by holding on to her male bestie. Do you think she deserves my love again? I want to know.

— Prince

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