I was in utter shock when I first saw the messages on her phone. The evidence was right before me but I couldn’t believe my eyes. If you knew Florence the way I knew her, you would understand why I felt this was a joke. She is a sweet and kind soul. She is the picture of innocence and naivety. Tell me, how does a girl like this cheat on me?

I couldn’t confront her immediately. I had to take my time to process the discovery and decide my next course of action. While I was yet to make a decision, I thought about all the four years I have known her. She was quite young when I first met her so I waited for a while before I finally made my move. By then we had nurtured a beautiful friendship.

We knew all there was to know about each other. I told myself, “This is the girl I am going to spend the rest of my life with.” She was my choice for life. Because of this, we both agreed that we wouldn’t get intimate until marriage. She was a virgin when I met her and I haven’t touched her to date.

I don’t even try to have sexual conversations with her. I felt she was too innocent for those kinds of talks. I never thought I would find anything when I decided to go through her phone last week. She had come to visit and spent the night. At dawn, I woke up and couldn’t go back to sleep. Out of boredom and curiosity, I took her phone and started going through it.

I saw a chat between her and another guy. I never heard about that guy until that chat. Everything in it pointed to the fact that she was cheating on me with him. After I finished processing everything I saw I sat her down for a conversation. “I was going through your phone when I found something,” I told her. I didn’t want to argue. I wanted to give her the opportunity to come clean.

There was a time in our relationship when we took a short break. It lasted for about six months. She said that was the time she met the guy and accepted his proposal. She didn’t know I would come back. And when I did come back, she couldn’t tell the guy about me. “I made him believe he was my first boyfriend,” she said, “so how could I have told him my ex was back in the picture?” That’s how she ended up playing both of us. “I thought I would let one of you go at some point but it just kept dragging on. I regret my actions so much. I didn’t mean to play two great guys,” she apologized.

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This relationship of theirs had been going on for over a year before I found out. Now, she has broken up with the guy. It seems the guy loved her too much to let go peacefully. He said stuff to her that messed her up. She had to block him everywhere to have peace.

She assured me he didn’t touch her. The guy also confirmed it. If that’s the case then why is my girlfriend acting as if her world has ended? She goes about moping and talking about how badly she regrets playing two great guys. I tell her she is young so her actions are forgivable. At twenty, it’s understandable that she would want to experience another guy who is not her boyfriend. Maybe it was curiosity. I have long forgiven her.

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The problem is, that she can’t seem to forgive herself. She hates herself right now. She is even threatening to hurt herself. She says she can’t get over the fact that she hurt the other guy. I understand she is going through a breakup but I am exhausted watching her hurt herself like that.

When I try to make her feel better she tells me, “No, don’t do that. I am too embarrassed for what I did to accept comfort from you. I am even ready to let you go if you don’t want to be with me anymore. I don’t deserve you after everything I have done.” I don’t want to lose her but I also don’t want her to be miserable. What do I do, please?

— T.T

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