Joanna had a boyfriend when I met her. She seemed to be taken with him. She often spoke to me about him when I became her friend. That was all we were right from the beginning, friends. I didn’t think of her as anything more than that because I was also involved with someone else. Just as I knew about Joanna’s man, she also knew about my woman.

I was at home one evening when she called me with some news. She said, “I don’t want to be with my boyfriend anymore.” I asked her, “Why? What did he do to push you away?” Her response was, “He didn’t do anything. It just happens that I have fallen in love with you. So I want you instead.” I was stunned.

I couldn’t believe that Joanna was willing to leave her boyfriend for me. I didn’t in anyway propose love to her or show any signs that I was in love with her. But I sure had feelings for her. I didn’t mean to but it happened. One moment we were good friends, and the next moment, I was in love with her and doing my best to keep it under wraps. That’s why when she came forward with her feelings, I understood her.

She asked that we date and I answered, “You know I have a girlfriend. I have to end things with her before I can officially date you.” She agreed to wait till I was ready to be hers. I also didn’t want the opportunity to be with her to pass me by so I decided to break up with my girlfriend before it would become too late.

Just as I was ending things with my girlfriend, she told me she was pregnant. I couldn’t have left her then. It would only make me come across as a jerk or an irresponsible man. The next best thing I could do was to stay with her until the baby arrived. I explained the situation to Joanna and she understood. She assured me she was going nowhere as long as I was certain I would find my way back to her.

For the nine months while I stayed with my pregnant girlfriend, the woman who wanted to be with me waited on the sidelines. I am not one to double-date. That’s why I wanted one relationship to end before I would enter into another.

When my first girlfriend had the baby, I found a tactful way to break up with her. That was when my relationship with Joanna began. I was so sure that she was the one for me. And I believed everything she said when she told me, “You are the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.” I moved heaven and earth to make her happy.

They say when you find someone you love, you hold on to them tightly and never let them go. I don’t know how practical this statement is but when I found myself confronted with a challenge in our relationship, the statement found its way to me.

The problem presented itself when she cheated on me and I found out. She said it was a mistake. “It happened when I was in a bad place. It won’t happen again, I promise.” Because of the love I have for her, I easily forgave her.

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Although I was not ready to lose her, I also didn’t want to blindly give her a second chance and end up with another disappointment. I believe the test of my love for her was when I decided to forgive her infidelity. If that is the case then shouldn’t her love for me be tested too?

She had said repeatedly that she could never love any man apart from me. In my quest to prove that she loved me enough to choose me over any other man, I told her; “I am not sure I will be ready to marry you soon. So if you find another man who is ready to marry you, you can go ahead and be with him.” She laughed in my face and repeated the line, “I am not going anywhere.” She was sure that I wouldn’t get rid of her that easily.

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Six months after I caught her cheating, she came to tell me that she had met another man. “I want to be with him,” she concluded. How? If she truly loved me, why would she want to leave me for another man? Now, I don’t understand the love she swore she had for me.

Sure, she failed the test but I am still not ready to lose her. I even confessed that it was all a test so I didn’t mean it when I encouraged her to go be with another man. I begged her to stay with me but she refused. She says she has already fallen in love with the new guy she just met. What do I make of this? How do I handle this heavy heart? I am so broken.

— Joojo

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