His attitude changed so I started monitoring him closely. It wasn’t even difficult for me to know that the person he was giving his attention to was a lady from his workplace. I took my time and gathered evidence to prove that he was having an affair with her. When I confronted him he couldn’t deny it. He told me, “I don’t know what came over me. It was a temptation. I will put an end to it and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Forgive me, please.” He showed me that indeed, he was sorry. Marriage is not a bed of roses and this was the first sign of thorns in ours so I didn’t run. I let it go and we moved on.

A few months later, I saw a romantic text message on my husband’s phone. It was from this same lady that he swore never to get involved with again. I was hurt. I felt so betrayed. If talking to my husband did not work, then maybe I should talk to his partner in crime. So this time around I didn’t say anything to my husband. I took the lady’s number from his phone and confronted her. I was not rude or aggressive.

I just politely told her to stay away from my husband. She responded, “Please, your husband is just my friend. I promise not to bother him again. I am sorry if I did or said anything to imply otherwise.” Her apology seemed genuine so once again, I let it slide.

Unbeknownst to me, my husband was sending her money. They were busily flirting with each other. It was one of my husband’s friends who called me and asked me, “Are you aware of what your husband is doing?” When I said no, he told me, “There’s a lady at our workplace. What she has been doing with your husband is an eyesore.”

He explained that they did not even hide their indiscretions. They were flirting publicly. Whenever there were work events, they showed up and hovered over each other as if they were a couple. Everybody at work had started asking questions and whispering behind their backs. “I know you so I feel disrespected on your behalf. That’s why I am telling you what has been happening behind your back. Talk to your husband. If there’s any leak in your marriage, you two should fix it before his behavior gets out of hand.” I thanked him for his information and acted calm, but I was far from okay.

I was enraged. Not only did my husband lie to me that he would end things with her but he was out there waving their affair like a national flag. The fact that this lady, in good conscience, paraded around with my husband as if he was hers added fuel to my anger.

I saved her number on my phone and sent her a WhatsApp message. Amidst my rants were curses. I typed some of the curses and sent some of them via voice note. Basically, I told her; “If you spend my husband’s money you will be barren. Nobody will call you a mother in this life. If you don’t stay away from my marriage, you will lose your life through a tragic accident.” Let it be understood that I said all these things out of anger.

Now that I have sat down to think about it, I have realized that I went too far. The lady has regretted her actions. She now has nothing to do with my husband. She has ended whatever they have going on and I have been assured that they are indeed, done. She told him that she has saved the curses I pronounced on her, and that if anything happens to her I am to blame.

My husband went to plead on my behalf and asked her to forgive me. She said she would delete the message but I am not sure if she has done it. How do I know if she has truly forgiven me? As for me, I have forgiven her. I want to revoke the curse but I don’t know how to go about it.

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Although what she did was not right, my husband was part to blame too. I should have taken out my frustration on him instead of cursing her. After all, it takes two to tango. That’s why I regret the words I said to her. I don’t wish her any evil.

That’s why I am here. I want to know if a curse pronounced out of anger will work. And now that she is staying away from him, will it still take effect? If it will, what can I do to reverse it? I have forgiven her but I don’t know if that is enough to nullify it. The last thing I want is for something bad to happen to her for anyone to hold me responsible.

—Erica

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