I didn’t know what the day had in store for me when I left my house that morning. I thought it was just going to be a regular day. I would go to work, go through the motions like a zombie, and then come home.
However, this was not a regular day. Everything was going on as averagely as possible when one of my colleagues walked into my office. There was a guy following him. He introduced the guy to me as a new member of our staff.
As soon as I set my eyes on this new guy, something fluttered in my heart. I felt at that moment that our meeting was cosmic. I was so overwhelmed by my feelings that I couldn’t talk. I just nodded and watched them leave.
A month after our first encounter, we became friends. I am not talking about the “Hello… Hi” kind of friendship. I am talking about the kind that makes people look at us and say, “Those two are joined by the hip.” We go to lunch together at work and do all other things together as well.
Our friendship doesn’t only end at work. Outside work, we hang out. I visit him sometimes. He also visits me on some days. There are also days he takes me out. I have done my background research on him. All the results say he doesn’t have a girlfriend. This makes me happy. It gives me hope that I have a shot with him.
We have been friends for six months now. I find him intriguing. I like everything I have seen about him so far. Apart from the the investigation I did about him, I have seen close-up that he is a good person. I believe I will make him as happy as he will make me.
He has given me permission to go to his house whenever I want to. He tells me, “You don’t have to call me before you come. My doors are always open to you.” At this point, I know he is in love with me. I am also in love with him.
I am a woman. I have been conditioned to wait until the man makes the first move. So every day I watch him and all but drool over him. The words, “I love you,” are dangling on the tip of my tongue. If I am not careful, these words will spill into his laps one day when I least expect it.
I scrutinized him to see if the words, “I love you” were hanging on the tip of his tongue too. It looks like it. I am saying this because he tells me about every move he makes before he makes them. He would insist on picking my brain on new projects. He listens to me. It is a wonderful feeling when someone lets you know that what you have to say matters to them. That’s how I know he cares about me.
I also consult him before I make certain decisions in my life. I trust his judgment. So I wouldn’t have a problem letting him lead. The way we behave, everyone who sees us together assumes we are dating. All our colleagues at work believe we are dating. They don’t believe us when we tell them we are just friends. So we don’t bother explaining our relationship anymore.
All this is going on around us yet it hasn’t occurred to this guy to propose love to me. I don’t know if he is holding back because he doesn’t see me as a girlfriend material or if there’s something else.
I am madly in love with him. Every moment I spend concealing my feelings from him is eating away at me. I don’t know what to do about this situation. I can’t tiptoe around it anymore, if not I will implode. I have started considering the thought of confessing my feelings to him.
I’ve Thought About How To Blame God
My concern is, won’t he see me in a certain light if I am the first to propose? Maybe he won’t take me seriously because I brought myself to him. So should I wait around for him, however long it takes, to come and propose? I have never been in this situation before so I am very confused.
Please advise me on what to do. I don’t want to miss out on a good man because I wasn’t brave enough to go get what I want. And I also don’t want to miss out on a beautiful love story because I pushed him away by coming on too strong. Help me get my man.
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Girl, kindly ask him to know where you stand in his life.
Definitely he likes you and he’s studying you but maybe he is not certain about you yet. Or he is just being nice to you. It could be that he sees you as a bestie and not a potential wife/gf.
Men normally don’t waste time when they like you.
So ask so you know what to do.
Please don’t tell him you like him till you know your stand.
All I can say is to wait for him to make his move first that will look perfect
One way to go about it is by jokingly asking him if you’re someone he would date. Whether he sees you to be wife-material ,generally,or wife-material enough for ‘him’.
Eg. “So,what Kay,what do you think? Will I make a good wife to you?” In a joking manner.
Then,look at his reaction. Would he be shocked,surprised or what?
I believe you can take it from there. Hope it helps.
Wait. Don’t say a thing! Good things come to those who wait, they say.
I am also just here to read people’s comment so please dear comentators, do make your coments brief.
Stay away from him for a while, pretend to be very busy with something. Detach your mind from him. Trust me, he will come ruining to propose.
When a love tempo is him and one person suddenly detached, it create a type of mystery that makes the other person wants to do something that places a hold on you so they don’t lose you.
In addition, I also want to believe that he is holding back because you both work in same place and the implications attached to that. He loves you and wants to work out a way too.
At this point, show urself to be a honest, trust worthy person that everyone can trust and like, while making obvious to him that you are clean as well.
God grants the desires of ur heart, babe.
Please invite me to your wedding.
Our names are same and we have the same issue too. Just jokingly ask him if he will like for you guys to be together not in a pleading manner. But maybe one day whilst making a video or greeting you say, this is my husband playfully just to see his reaction
My sis Law, please don’t make a move assuming the feelings are mutual. I was there once but I didn’t get the chance to make a move because the next time I visited I saw a lady in his house and he never told me he loved me so I just had to accept my fate n his choice. What is yours will surely come to you, just WAIT…QUE SERA SERA